Tracey! A Latin lady by the name of Bob, or (as usual) am I missing something? Sure fooled me! But I know you are astute, and none-the-less, I would like to take him/her on! So, here it goes, (for better or worse):
BOB:
“Acceptance is often touted as an essential trait for the highly-evolved person, but it seems that Western society is, in practice, moving away from that concept. Instant gratification and the relentless pursuit of material goals have become the norm.”
1. “Would you agree with the above description?”
Yes, I would agree that is an accurate summary of western life, particularly in the US. It is totally opposite for expatriates in Bali who seek, and find, meaning far beyond materialism.
2. “How would you define acceptance?”
In my past life, acceptance was largely gauged on approval of my peers and to those I was responsible. That would include my superiors, and my spouse at that time.
3. “Can you relate an example that illustrates the concept as you define it?”
Sure, many. In those days, I would most often do what I was told or asked to do. Moral issues, or even issues of legality were of no concern to me. If my superior said, “jump” my only response, if any, would be, “how high?”
4. “In your own life what part does acceptance play?”
In my old “corporate” days, quite a lot. Today, nothing. And oddly enough, I’m accepted more today, in my little primitive village, with my wife and three sons then I have ever been accepted before. The fact is, I’ve learned that acceptance is transcended by love and respect. Acceptance is way down the totem pole.
5. “What value do you think it has?”
You mean acceptance? It has very little value, and in Asia, it is only a cousin of tolerance…which, by the way, is what I am showing you right now.
6. “You're at home charging first-class round-the-world aiprlane tickets on the internet and browsing Tiffany.com for the perfect 5-carat diamond ring when the phone rings and you discover that your winning lottery ticket is actually a loser. Somebody made a big mistake! What is the first thing you would do?”
That’s easy! Pour myself a martini of course! Then again, I, like most other expats, don’t “charge” anything. It’s cash around here, on the barrel head, and no BS. And, moreover, our 5 karat diamonds come from Kalimantan, Borneo, at about one tenth of the price at Tiffany.
7. “Any personal information (age, gender, religious/spiritual practice, career/work) greatly appreciated.”
Last I looked down there, still male. Age?… old. Religion, Hindu…and the past? Well, I could tell you, but then you know the drill, ya….I’d have to kill you.