Hi folks,
Uma, thank you for voicing some of our own concerns -- though we don't move until July, we've certainly experienced similar feelings during our visits. From what I gather of your situation, you are married to a local person, and thus are integrating into a family. This is much different and more intense (and possibly lonely) than us, a couple of soon to be retired Americans who, like many others, fell in love with Bali and next thing found ourselves way over our heads in land leasing, house-building, etc. We are just looking for something different and more satisfying than your typical American retirement plan. However, in typical American fashion, we have begun to feel "at home" and comfortable with some of the people in our village (most of whom are employed in some way building our house for the past couple of years), and are thinking that things are just "hunky dory". Lots of smiles and the beginnings of some chat back in forth in their limited English and my barely emergent bahasa. But of course we don't really have a clue as to how these folks view the world, themselves, us, etc. As you point out, we are still being essentially treated as guests. This will no doubt go on for a long time and in some ways, is not all bad.
In the meantime, however, don't miss out on the Sunday brunch at Puri Asri. We went twice during our recent visit in Jan-Feb, and plan to be regulars once we're there in July. It's all of the things that Roy said, and more. From what I've seen of your postings, you seem to be one who thinks and feels deeply. You'll be happy to know that conversation at the brunch covers the waterfront from light-hearted banter to philosophical discourse (with a hefty share of silence when lunch is served). The food is outstanding - whatever you do, don't miss dessert - and Stefan and his wife couldn't be nicer hosts.
by the way, what do you think of the language classes at the Library? I stopped in and spoke with Laurie about them when we were there in Jan., and Susan and I plan to take them beginning in August. Are they helpful? Are you learning?
Hope all goes well for you. See you all "not soon enough"....
Dennis and Susan Ferrell