No problems sweetheart. Apologies accepted.
Now back to the topic. are you going to go into any detail about why you consider Bali not to be a paradise?
Most grounded, sane people already realise that paradise is just a mater of perception, but I'm interested in hearing how you got sucked in to believing in that fairytale and why you're so bitter about it. I guess Magic didn't happen for you princess.:icon_rolleyes:
Problem for me is I never bought into the fairy tale.... its actually all my fault tht Im here and not happy to be.
And I never ever called this place Paradise... (in fact, your statement that Bali or anyplace is just a matter of perception is exactly what I wrote in this thread about 6 hours ago, so scroll back a bit, in fact try reading the whole thread.... its very enlightening from all contributors) If you read from the beginning of the thread, I was responding to someone else who asked the "paradise" question and my reasons for my choosing the "not paradise" side, are there in great detail (too much detail actually but I was a bit fired up at the time)
Most people who live here, came for holidays for years first. I never came here for holidays ever... I wasn't interested in Bali or Fiji or any place "Resorty"... I wanted places further afield... more challenging, grass roots, and different, and I'm very interested in ancient history and archaeology( I love South America, and Central America and the Mediterranean)....
I came to Bali for my business.... I mean I'd lived all over, so why not? ......first mistake
It was one of my spontaneous decisions, and the lesson Ive learned is don't make a life decision based solely on a business one
Never move to a place that you never
ever liked in the first place, just because it works on a business level
So I started off not liking it (opposite to most people)... pushed myself into seeing the good side, but for me, struggled all along as it never appealed from day one. (And it s not like I dont like things and places that are different, I lived in Peru and Guatemala for a year each... much more grass roots than Bali and I loved both places... in fact I've lived in around 6 countries long term ish... and Indonesia is the only place I really dont like and wont ever visit after I leave.... go figure huh?)
Made some friends and worked really hard to "be here" and get "into it"
For a while I fooled myself that it was OK and I thought by getting a long term property and "nesting" it would help
It didn't, and pretty much as soon as the house was finished and I'd moved in, I started making concrete plans to leave for good.
Everything's in place..... but the house isn't sold and I don't want to rent it short term (ie 1 year at a time) and micromanage from another country
When I'm gone... it's for good
For more of my reasons for not being happy here, just go to my profile and read previous posts (there's a lot of positive stuff there too :icon_wink
or better still, read this thread from the beginning. This thread alone says it all and I dont have the energy or inclination to write them again. Theyre all true but hardly fun to repeat.
I didn't necessarily want to put them there in the first place, but a few people wanted me to justify my dislike of Bali, which I don't get at all. If you have to justify yourself to someone they aren't worth the explanation. Someone genuinely interested in you in a friendly way isn't asking for justification of what you think... they just want to
know what you think, and with me.... its hardly a secret is it?
I don't ask anyone to explain their opinion of the place good or bad, I respect that their opinion is theirs as long as they don't try to make their opinion .... my opinion. Opinions are personal and often unexplainable like tastebuds... you either like spinach or you don't... who knows why?
Me? Personally? ... not so much
Regards
N