Is it a dream if I'm living it daily? Sorry things didn't work out for you mate but don't mean every relationship is doomed to fail.Nice to see there are still some romantic dreamers around .....
Is it a dream if I'm living it daily? Sorry things didn't work out for you mate but don't mean every relationship is doomed to fail.Nice to see there are still some romantic dreamers around .....
Hola, hola.... don't go too fast !Is it a dream if I'm living it daily? Sorry things didn't work out for you mate but don't mean every relationship is doomed to fail.
Good pointers. Here is another one:Well as the list of thing "to do" is almost endless perhaps a small list of thing "not to do" might be more useful?
1) anything with locals where the term "Bali family" comes up.
2) anything where (after the first year) you are asked to take part in some ceremony
3) supporting some family in their ambitions to start/expand a business
4) drinking booze in the afternoon regularly. Occasionally, I have a billiards/pool group, is fine.
5) getting involved with any "charitable" group - 99.9% scam
6) teaching locals English language (scam alert)
7) going religiously to one bar/restaurant/shop - the expectation is you will always continue to do it and the prices go up imperceptibly but regularly.
8) form a "real" bond with one of the locals (I know what I said before) - super-glue, you will never get rid of them until you marry - then you're really fecked.
9) marry a local - the surest path to misery I have ever seen (yes, there are exception, I know, count on your fingers)
10) learn the language - after 14 years I've found it nearly impossible and I'm multilingual - it's an age thing and frankly very discouraging.
That's exactly my point. I think a lot of foreigners come here with a certain "dream" in mind and locals also have their own version of a "dream" but more often than not, those dreams are rooted in selfishness and result in failure when combined.Hola, hola.... don't go too fast !
I am single !
F.Y.I. I totalize 28 years living / working in various Asian countries, so I have a fair idea of the game, have seen "love" stories, dreams and drama's everywhere, have enjoyed countless gf and companions short, medium and long term of about every Asian country.
And in the process had a mariage, 3 kids, all adult now and 2 living in Europe.
Retired now. From the job and calmed down on the chase.
BTW : Define your definition of "dream", because maybe being from VERY different cultures we probably don't have the same !
Not at all !I think SpeedDave got on his bike and sped!
FYI a 60 day stay is also doable.Not at all !
Markit's list is very sound and I agree with all ( and more ) of them.
Roosters crowing ? I actually love the "rural" sounds !
I also really dig the smells, the food, the weather and mostly the (local) people.
Trying to learn the language did cross my mind, and it would be a form of structured activity that suits my personality ( i am (generally) a follower, not a leader) but my language learning skills absolutely suck, so that would probably just be a waste of time.
I guess I a just going to have to take some time and deep thinking around how to comfortably achieve this dream.
Maybe a 30 day (visa constrained) trials might be the go?
I am however very grateful for all the advice so far and both welcome and encourage further dialog from all of you !
So thanks and warm regards !!
Hello all, long time lurker but first time poster.
So I find myself recently single and about to retire.
I've been to Bali about a dozen times over the last 30 odd years and love everything about it, so now my mind wanders to those golden times of warm ocean breezes and amazing food. ( also, the jungle, waterfalls, smells, sounds, smiles, spirituality, freedom, colours, intrigue, ..... everything really )
My previous travels have really only been staying at various resorts and wandering the local neighbourhoods with "the group" ( pretty unadventurous i know )
So now I am seriously contemplating staying long term, but I really worry that I will just have nothing to "do" in any meaningful long term way.
I really am not one of those adventurous wander-lust free-spirit type of people, so figuring out "what to do" can be somewhat challenging.
I know that I could go and do all the "touristy" type things ( mountain biking, water rafting, jungle treks etc ) but that is very short term and usually done in a group.
I am talking more longer term, day to day type activities, and I am really stuck.
I don't "write" or "Paint" or any other type of solo endeavour, so feel that I might end up just sitting in my room staring at the walls.
So my question is, "What do other Bali retirees fill their days in paradise with after the "honeymoon" period ? "
Thanks in advance to all those that reply,
David
Not at all !
Markit's list is very sound and I agree with all ( and more ) of them.
Roosters crowing ? I actually love the "rural" sounds !
I also really dig the smells, the food, the weather and mostly the (local) people.
Trying to learn the language did cross my mind, and it would be a form of structured activity that suits my personality ( i am (generally) a follower, not a leader) but my language learning skills absolutely suck, so that would probably just be a waste of time.
I guess I a just going to have to take some time and deep thinking around how to comfortably achieve this dream.
Maybe a 30 day (visa constrained) trials might be the go?
I am however very grateful for all the advice so far and both welcome and encourage further dialog from all of you !
So thanks and warm regards !!
In the old days they use to be called losmans which is basically a local Balinese family who built rows of rooms on there land which is part of there house so technically they are BnbsThanks Murph, some solid advice right there.
Sounds like you're an Aussie ? ( me too )
You mentioned that accommodation is "everywhere". Are you talking air'b'n'b ? or something else ? Can you elaborate on that ?
Funny. I had one "Ida Bagus" running a nightclub near my previous villa and the music kept me up until 6m almost evenlight. I asked my landlord, an "Agung" to see what he could do to improve the situation. He gave me a miserable look and said he tried for years but it was impossible. Not my kind of "father".example Ida Bagus and Agung is highest so everyone who is from that carsta is your mother your father your sister your brother etc etc
I just wonder how many of these failed mixed marriages are the by-product of jaded old Western blokes (probably already on their second or third wife) marrying the local Javanese sl*t (herself likely with many notches on the belt) who is 20 years his junior and largely done so for self gratification rather than a genuine life partner? Rhetorical question because I already know the answer.That's exactly my point. I think a lot of foreigners come here with a certain "dream" in mind and locals also have their own version of a "dream" but more often than not, those dreams are rooted in selfishness and result in failure when combined.
I'm not trying to make an argument or anything. Just trying to say I am in happy, healthy relationship with an Indonesian and I know many more that are as well. All hope is not lost if our new friend who started this thread wanted to pursue romance here to pass his time.
Should he be careful? Absolutely. Should he be hopeless? Far from it.