samsiam
Thought you got divorced...or split or whatever....so whats this shit... 'and my wife says go do it.'.....
As the old dude said, she seems to want the best of both worlds....if you dont kick her arse kurbside now....big problems be coming your way....like sitting down for brekky with the toy boy javanese dude.
As for rootin like rabbits.... google the word 'gik' or 'kik' in thai....aka 'fuck friend'.......every good girl...and bad girl...has several
Markit
Who are you calling "the old dude" you gypsy Thai Sock Cucker!?
Joe Writeson
As Brian said - "Always look on the bright side of life"
... it was Eric idle as the 'Second Crucifixee on the left' who sang the uplifting song so beloved of footy fans everywhere ... so it was actually either 'Dysmas' or 'Gestas' ...
Brian does not really join in enthusiastically...hope this helps
JabberWokker
As Brian said - "Always look on the bright side of life"
... it was Eric idle as the 'Second Crucifixee on the left' who sang the uplifting song so beloved of footy fans everywhere ... so it was actually either 'Dysmas' or 'Gestas' ...
Brian does not really join in enthusiastically...hope this helps
Thanks for the correction, a while since I watched the film. I find it to be a real classic.
samsiam
I should stop talking about it now and find my new self.
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Consider moving to ubud...seems plenty people find themselves up there. Might find some hairy armpits too....
JabberWokker
Consider moving to ubud...seems plenty people find themselves up there. Might find some hairy armpits too....
Plenty of hairy arm pits in Seminyak and Kuta for me.
Ubud is not my scene. I am not a pretend Eco person, vegetarian or into yoga, so will not fit in.
Still never comprehended how the place is supposed to be the centre of culture of Bali. Great marketing.
Markit
Ubud used to have some fairly original painters, now they're all avant-garde dab, slosh and run specialists but most people think the "culture" thing started with a German man named Walter Spies who lived in Ubud, before the 2nd WW, and codified the various Balinese dances and put some of them to music or at least arranged them. Needless to say a gay gentleman that had the singularly bad idea to head home before the fighting started and finished his days not with accolades for his work but in one of Adolf's concentration camps.
Now days most people think "culture" is a knock-off Gucci handbag, hence "Ubud Center of Balinese Culture".
JabberWokker
Sorry for the French admin.
I actually wanted to write this thread about six months ago, at least a similar one, but thought maybe a little inappropriate. But what the hell, it has happened to me so what the fuck (did say sorry for the french, it's in context).
Is it just me or do all Indonesians fuck like rabbits? As the saying goes. It took me over a year to realise that just about all the Indonesians I knew from family and friends and also including staff and their friends, were having affairs and it was the norm for them. My wife and I use to laugh about it.
Quite often working away, with the husband/wife somewhere else and the baby being looked after by the older family, the woman is over here having multiple boyfriends. If you have not noticed then you are probably missing out. I have known a few that are going with several at the same time locally. It’s crazy. These are not just the ones from other Islands as I have seen the same with the local Bali girls, who are even worse at times. My wife did think I was doing them as well as we had very pretty ones, but I never did. I chose pretty, as presentation counts.
My wife says it’s very much an English thing from me thinking you should just have one person and I should become more modern lol.
To add to the problem in Bali is that sex is so easy. Just go for a massage, a bike ride. I had a bad back my dear wife, so needed some tension relief. Well to me that’s a one off, not an affair, not saying I done that before because I never did. But times change.
So have you all noticed they fuck like rabbits, more than anywhere else or am I just stupid and should join the crowd and accept it is the norm? I do have a very pretty 24 year old wants to meet me this weekend and my wife says go do it.
To sum up she wants me to just play around and she does as well and stay together for everything else. Is that not very strange? Or is it fun? I am confused.
Markit
JW I'm wondering if your theme is more wish fulfillment than observational study?
Here in the east I've not seen that behavior (unfortunately) and actually have the complete reverse experience in that one of my long year staff will no longer speak with another long year staff, both male, while the staff "A" hid in the jungle at night and watched his opponent, staff "B", sitting next to staff "A"s wife (staff "C") and doing things on the phone together. That's it! Sitting together with phone apps. No bodily fluids.
I do think there is masses of jealousy and suspicion going around but in all reality, not much in the way of bodily fluids.
So if your missus is telling you to go play the field, friend, you are getting played - methinks. If she has changed within a single week from wanting your raggety ass gone to wanting it back but "sharing the joy" I would be very, very careful about where and what I ate at home...
But what do I know?
JabberWokker
JW I'm wondering if your theme is more wish fulfillment than observational study?
Here in the east I've not seen that behavior (unfortunately) and actually have the complete reverse experience in that one of my long year staff will no longer speak with another long year staff, both male, while the staff "A" hid in the jungle at night and watched his opponent, staff "B", sitting next to staff "A"s wife (staff "C") and doing things on the phone together. That's it! Sitting together with phone apps. No bodily fluids.
I do think there is masses of jealousy and suspicion going around but in all reality, not much in the way of bodily fluids.
So if your missus is telling you to go play the field, friend, you are getting played - methinks. If she has changed within a single week from wanting your raggety ass gone to wanting it back but "sharing the joy" I would be very, very careful about where and what I ate at home...
But what do I know?
Yes I am certainly being played, and can’t do much about it apart from walk away with nothing or suck it up and enjoy the Island of the Godesses.
Thought you got divorced...or split or whatever....so whats this shit... 'and my wife says go do it.'.....l
Nothing legal yet, that takes time, still in the early stages. I am UK married and when we officially get rid of that I don’t know. We do have shared accommodation in a complex which makes it hard. I will just live in one of them as my life is tied up here.
if you dont kick her arse kurbside now....big problems be coming your way....like sitting down for brekky with the toy boy javanese dude.
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He lives in Java with his wife and kid at the moment, stays in hotels when in Bali. Yes I know he will be here one day, however she keeps saying it is just for fun. He may get bored and she will no doubt get another sometime after that.
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As for rootin like rabbits.... google the word 'gik' or 'kik' in thai....aka 'fuck friend'.......every good girl...and bad girl...has several
Very interesting reading. From what I read that is what I have seen here and as the article says it is not talked about. It’s a hidden thing which should not be brought up as they do not like confrontation. Certainly don’t tell the Bule’s about it.
Thai people having affairs | Living Thai
I though the comment at the end mentioning the different types was funny:
1st wife
2nd mia noi
3rd GF
4th gik
5th dates (internet etc.)
6th soapies/bar girls etc.
Well life goes on, thanks for all the input everyone on the different threads. I should stop talking about it now and find my new self.
As Brian said - "Always look on the bright side of life"...
samsiam
Australians have more culture than a freight train full of yogurt.
no.idea
Hi Markit. Talking of old gay men, when are you next heading down to the deep south?
I would like to introduce you to my new girlfriend. She has previously been married to this English guy. They are separated but live in the same complex. She speaks very good English.
samsiam
But she's fat..
Markit
Hi Markit. Talking of old gay men, when are you next heading down to the deep south?
I would like to introduce you to my new girlfriend. She has previously been married to this English guy. They are separated but live in the same complex. She speaks very good English.
Yeah I've heard of her, got a naggy fucking husband and Javanese shag-buddy, maybe we can invite hubby for a real party and see if we can ride his new bike?
no.idea
Yeah I've heard of her, got a naggy fucking husband and Javanese shag-buddy, maybe we can invite hubby for a real party and see if we can ride his new bike?
That is the one. (I forgot that you met her last visit) The Javanese boy friend does not worry me, apparently he is just a passing fancy.
JabberWokker
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Roger_Ramjet
Maybe the Balinese have got it right JW? Honesty and openness in their relationships while still recognising that variation is the spice of life. 50% divorce rate in Australia - how much here?
Just my (and our) view forum goers.
Cheers all
Joe Writeson
Maybe the Balinese have got it right JW? Honesty and openness in their relationships while still recognising that variation is the spice of life. 50% divorce rate in Australia - how much here?
Just my (and our) view forum goers.
Cheers all
Not so much 'Honesty and openness' as root away without considering the consequences and hope that any problems just 'go away'... unfortunately some of these develop into 'major' problems over a nine month period.
Roger_Ramjet
Ahhh Safe Sex Joe. A whole different topic to relationships. Don't be a fool wrap your tool. Chlamydia - out of control in Australia and most developed countries. HIV and Aids - very high rates in Bali. Unplanned children? The least of the worries in the world. The stats are that 25% of people do not REALLY know who their biological father is in all developed countries.
Almost as divisive as politics and football!
Best wishes all
Joe Writeson
Unfortunately Roger in this area a certain section of the society think knocking out male children ad infinitum is a sign of virility and manhood, which accounts for the alarming amount of girls and women abandoned with female babies.
Also there are vast numbers of males who refuse to take responsibility for their wick dipping activities and are actually 'proud' of the number of women they impregnate ...
