Is it ok if I open a tread on finding a relationship in Bali

calitobali

Pretty easy to find a girlfriend in Bali. Harder to actually get a Balinese girl, most expats end up with girls from other islands, but there are definitely Balinese girls out there that will date foreigners. Most locals will assume at first glance that the girl is a working girl when they see you. If they meet you, they can usually tell if she is or not, so no real problems there, just let the girl's actions speak for themselves.

Jesse

Maybe you should find a partner in your place who likes the idea of retiring in Bali Island then plan about your place there.

Jonfrodo

[quote="balivillaholidays, post: 49239"]Maybe you should find a partner in your place who likes the idea of retiring in Bali Island then plan about your place there.[/QUOTE] I have almost given up on that one. The trouble is also the law in Australia in regards to a failed relationship. It can cost you 50% of ones net worth. It should be thread not tread!!

mimpimanis

I have almost given up on that one. The trouble is also the law in Australia in regards to a failed relationship. It can cost you 50% of ones net worth.

And if you decide to marry your Balinese GF it could cost you $50k :icon_lol: See: https://balipod.com/forum/threads/foreign-men-to-pay-a-rp-us-50-000-deposit-to-marry-an-indonesian-woman.4210/

Jonfrodo

Hello to all, Is it ok if I open a tread on finding a relationship in Bali, I mean I do not want be non PC here. The retiring baby boomers are really starting to come on stream and a lot of then being either single, divorced or married are looking at retiring in Bali or are already living there. I my self am divorced and have only hung around in Australia while my children were still kids. Well they are all over 21 now so I do not have to feel guilty about leaving and retiring to a tropical island. I have been on dating sites, lol no luck there. A lot of the women (and men I suppose) on these sites seem to be BS artists, I suppose that many men and women of my generation have had not much luck with finding a partner in Australia so I am now looking overseas. So my question is this : how hard is to find a girlfriend in Bali? Is there a negative impact from the locals if one is dating a Balinese woman? It would upset me greatly if people thought the lady I was dating was; well you know what I mean. At any rate at my age I am far more interested in the company than, you know what. I would appreciate it very much if I could correspond with expats living in Bali who can fill me in, I know that when I come to live in Bali that I will be on a huge learning curve. It would be great if I could meet a group of expats and be involved in the community . Than you for the forum.:icon_e_confused:

Jonfrodo

And if you decide to marry your Balinese GF it could cost you $50k :icon_lol: See: https://balipod.com/forum/threads/foreign-men-to-pay-a-rp-us-50-000-deposit-to-marry-an-indonesian-woman.4210/

This seem to me to be either a racist slur, or just another way for the government to extract more money. Gosh do they hate us that much. I wonder what would happen if the Rudd and his crew tried to do this is regards to an Indonesian man wishing to marry an Australian woman?

chilli

Jonfrodo wroteI have almost given up on that one. The trouble is also the law in Australia in regards to a failed relationship. It can cost you 50% of ones net worth. It should be thread not tread!!

If 50% of your net worth is what is stopping you from entering into a relationship with a woman of your own culture then im afraid your fear will lose you 50% no matter what woman in any country you get involved with. what ever happened to love and attraction ? you sound immature and calculating. Anyway, I wish you goodluck.

noodles

chilli wrotewhat ever happened to love and attraction ? you sound immature and calculating. Anyway, I wish you goodluck.

He is looking for girl who wud like to live and company together as his said "At any rate at my age I am far more interested in the company than, you know what." Do housework in the daytime and service on bed in the nighttime...

noodles

mimpimanis wroteAnd if you decide to marry your Balinese GF it could cost you $50k

Javaness GF is same "pricey" ^^

MiSO

noodles wroteHe is looking for girl who wud like to live and company together as his said "At any rate at my age I am far more interested in the company than, you know what." [B]Do housework in the daytime and service on bed in the nighttime...[/B]

I'm not sure if I understand this, but I had to l.o.l. anyway. Mmm...enough male forum members have Balinese (Indonesian) partners, but most of the posts are from our female members...isn't that, what I call, peculiar...? ;) Maybe they can give you information via PM. Depending on what, excuse me, [I]who[/I] you are looking for, I think it's not difficult to find a partner. Yes, and most of them would want you for 'economical stability', even they are not you-know-what ;-) But hey, who is judging...? A man once said to his Asian partner: "If you take care of me until I die, I will take care of you until you die: And it seemed to me they'd built this warm relationship. I think when you'll be here, and people get to know you (and you are nice:), it won't be unlikely you'll meet her. You could also join clubs & activities to build a social life first. Let people snif around you first, so that they know what kind of man you are. Balitocali: why is it harder to date a Balinese girl? Afraid for gossips?

calitobali

From what I have seen most Balinese girls are more reluctant to date foreigners, whether it be a cultural thing or whatever. Also dating a Balinese girl in Bali means usually having to get to know her whole family pretty quickly, something that scares a lot of foreigners away as our dating process wouldn't call for that.

MiSO

Calitobali (not Balitocali ;-) thanks for shining your light on this, is much appreciated.

gilbert de jong

if you take a balinese girl out of her trusted environment the story is very different. a balinese girl on java is likely to be the same as a javanese girl on Bali... now I am not saying all of the Javanese girls on Bali are kupu2 liar, nor that all balinese girls on jave are like that, OK! I had my thoughts about dating young indonesian girls and posted them here too...I do feel that I have to revise my thoughts a little... Do whatever makes you happy and with a little luck makes her happy too.. if you have to worry about money in a relationship, stay single.

meerkat

Jonfrodo wroteI have almost given up on that one. The trouble is also the law in Australia in regards to a failed relationship. It can cost you 50% of ones net worth. It should be thread not tread!!

that's what Jason Monet -the local australian painter said in his painting with a zipper down one side...he made this after his first divorce there....and painted himself on one side of the zipper and his ex-wife ;house;kids and even the bloody dog in the other....I miss that bastard ... he was a great wit

gilbert de jong

hahaha...good one :highly_amused:

matsaleh

meerkat wrotethat's what Jason Monet -the local australian painter said in his painting with a zipper down one side...he made this after his first divorce there....and painted himself on one side of the zipper and his ex-wife ;house;kids and even the bloody dog in the other....I miss that bastard ... he was a great wit

I miss him too. I didn't know him all that well; only met him a few times at Naughty Nuri's in Ubud. The funniest thing I remember was his black dog. Jason had painted the dog's name on both sides. It read "Dog" on one side and "God" on the other side. :icon_biggrin:

Rangi

Yea i wouldnt bother opening a thread for it i would just get out there and find one. . Its pretty easy in bali . . .

matf

Wow lots of mixed opinions, well i myself have dated a many indo girls, some awsome and some horrble people which goes with any race.... but you just have to have half a brain when looking for someone to spend your life with to realize which are the keepers and which you need to run in the other direction im only young so you all may have a lot more life experience but if your looking for a true companionship without the price tag or nightmare steer clear of bars,massage parlors,clubs and basically kuta all together hhaha in my opinion maybe try hanging out with friends meeting friends of friends, maybe join a gym or sports group book club or anything on you level where you can meet people with simalar interests and interact with people and maybe you will find what you are looking for

balidavo

life can be a 2 sided coin ; Heads - when it rains it pours , and ..., Tails - the harder you look , the more you'll dip out :highly_amused:

gilbert de jong

are there one sided coins? :icon_lol: