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Already in the beginning of the marriage negotiations with the Klian Adat, (religious village head), I heard between the Balinese words, things like immigration, consulate etc. My alarm bells started ringing immediately, when the perfect English speaking Klian Adat told me that I should get the papers to marry according to Indonesian Law. I heard some stories about foreigners that lost all they had because of this, because the wife had the legitimate right to take half or more after such a marriage. So I said no, not just like this, I need to consult people before I do this, and probably draw up papers at the notary. "I don't want to put Dewi in a position where she might be forced, for whatever reason, to take from me and leave me". At that moment the Klian Adat agreed with the father of Dewi and the Kapalla Desa to a religious marriage. Tonight however, Dewi told me that the Klian Adat has been telling this around the village, and many people said it was very bad for Dewi, this arrangement. Tomorrow he will talk to me again with the father of Dewi and Dewi present, and Monday I have to come to the Village Head to sign all kind of things regarding me becoming a Hindu and the marriage, one of the signatures will say that I have to marry according to Indonesian Law, Dewi told me. Dewi understands my reasoning and doesn't want to marry to law, but hopes that I can put them off by postponing the lawful marriage. It might well be possible that there is no permission is given for the religious marriage if I not agree to all papers I have to sign. With all I have I try to trust Dewi, and I hardly succeed anymore. I have two thought lines, one of them is that I am caught in another tourist scam, and if I want I can find many reasons to make this "line" believable. The other is a concerned village leadership and father, they may think that I am just taking Dewi to "use" and throw away when not needed anymore, and thus reducing her chances to find a good husband (again) and loosing her good name, they want to give her security. There are probably some examples of that to be found on Bali too. I heard one of them. Together with Dewi I decide to tell tomorrow and Monday that I want to marry according to Indonesian law, but not after investigating all consequences this might have, so Dewi and I will do this after the religious marriage. And I will smile, and not talk about all the bad people on Bali. But when I feel forced, I'll probably stand up and say NO, and say to Dewi "it's up to you now, you are an adult according to law, come with me, or leave me, don't let the village or your father decide what should happen with us". Here a picture of a cremation of a family member of Dewi at the Pemaron graveyard, "kuburan". http://bali-information.com/forumpics/crema.jpg[/img]She is set on fire with some primitive fuel nozzles, while the young kids are watching curiously. Looking at the construction of the fuel system it doesn't seem unlikely that the cremation one day will burn more family members then intended. This kuburan is famous for its appearances of ghosts. Dewi doesn't want to drive by the kuburan in the night, afraid. When we do coincidentally, I hear some stories about them, some ghost disappeared when they where given money she tells. Even the bloody ghosts are corrupt.The power plant in Pemaron is being built. But the fight against it is not over yet, Pemaron has made Greenpeace:[url="http://act.greenpeace.org/1052348909/index_html"]http://act.greenpeace.org/1052348909/index_html[/url]