Shadrach wrote
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I'm curious about this drama. So far it is all one sided for the woman. You say he has never seen the the child or given any support. Was the wife's family open for him to see the child? You say he didn't contact her for six years. Did she try to contact him? I would have to hear from both parties, before I could give any suggestions.
Such a sad thing when people grow apart and have a child between them.
You say they both have been living abroad and working independently. So obviously she has made money also. Why is it, the man is supposed to play this role of provider even if they separate? I do agree the father should help provide for the child, but why should he provide for the wife, when she has been living abroad, earning an income, and not taking care of the child either?
They married and moved in with his family, but then he treated her bad and his family did too. So she moved back with her family and son. She'll have witnesses to attest to this treatment. He then took off without saying anything and started working abroad. After a year and receiving no help or support from him, she was then forced to go work abroad too to support her son while her family cared for him.
She did contact his family to let them know she was going and son was down the street with her parents. She also reached out to him several times by phone and Facebook throughout the years. But he was never interested to talking and never reached out himself. She was always hopeful he would call, show some interest, save the marriage, but no. In the last year of her work contract, she had made up her mind that she wanted a divorce. No longer wanted to wait and would file when she returned home.
Despite Islamic marriage rules, he never supported her or their son. Nothing. So she was forced to then work and support herself and son. Her job covered flight, housing and food. So she spent some on herself but the majority was sent back to her family to support her son.
All of this is well documented, so while I understand your concern only hearing one side - let's assume I'm telling the truth...
He's been home years now and knows he could've easily gone seen his son but was not interested. She's been back several months and he still never contacted or reached out. It's a small village and they live down the road from each other. Her father passed, funeral, 40 day event.. his family reached out but he didn't go out call. Nothing until last week when she went to his house to talk about divorce. He just said he wanted her back, nothing about their son, but she said no way. She let him know she would file the Divorce Claim, and he was mad saying he won't agree to anything and will fight it. Again never reaching out or asking about son this week.
His treatment, his family's treatment, leaving her, zero support, 6 years of never contacting her or son, irreconcilable differences... divorce grounds shouldn't be an issue. And him going after son really wouldn't happen. But I'm guessing he will attend court to fight it throughout.
Does she need a lawyer? She's smart and I think she can stay focused, leave emotions out and handle it business like. Would it make the process faster? How long do you think it would take to finalize the divorce?
Any other issues or concerns she should have?
Thanks!
