Markit wrote
Or as I said in my post live in another country from them.
You'll still demands ....
Not even speaking about when you come on holiday.
No, set things straight from day 1.
I was married with a Thai for 15 y, never had a demand. Living with my Indo companion in Bali since 3 years, never had a demand.
Things were made clear "my family doesn't ask me money, neither should yours".
If the usual "yeah, but you know Indonesia (replace by any other country) is different", then explain one more time. Next step is "You see the big brown thing there ? It's called the door !
Although I do agree that living with her in the western world is preferable.
But, as a pensioner, I want sun and warm water every day now.....