Thread: I have a question...

I have a quick question regarding something I been so stressed out on lately. I have a trip that is coming up here in about a week and I have an 8 month old daughter. I am so worried because I will be away from her for about four days with my father, my husband, and my step mother. It is a trip in which is essential for us (business) and my presence has been requested. The only thing is that I am so paranoid about leaving my daughter with our nanny. I am not used to having a nanny she is AWESOME. I have had her for about 5 months with 0 complaints but... I am so paranoid. What if something went wrong? I am just going out of my wits with separation anxiety. I am contemplating cancelling and dealing with the consequences. Has anyone been in this situation before? Or left their child with a nanny for approximately three nights? She is from an agency from Jakarta but I am just curious what everyone else has done and if anyone else has been in this predicament. I probably won't leave anyway but just curious about other experiences from parents. If it would help my 15 year old step daughter will also be here along with my 8 year old son...

Thank you

No I worry about my son too. I am far from neglectful from that kid... lol. I do worry about my son. He is very smart and mature and knows right from wrong but I do worry about his safety. The usual thing that seems to happen is that the 15 year old and the 8 year old keep one another company quite a bit... the baby is only with the nanny and that is all. The 15 year old really isn't good with babies but loves her step brother to death (not that it replaces me but it makes me feel a bit better about the three nights). My aunt also lives next door and the kids go there sometimes with her.

I am, by nature, paranoid about everything but it is a bit refreshing to hear what you had to say. Besides the neglectful part but it is okay, no offense taken because I know that kid is far from neglected.

Kids do adapt a bit better than us adults.

Originally Posted by Markit

Christ! Chrystal let me get this straight: you have an agency nanny, a 15 year old stepdaughter and your 8 year old son - all looking after a perfectly healthy 8 month old baby? All for JUST 3 NIGHTS?!!

Hell, I'm not suggesting you do this but if you locked the kid in a cupboard for the 3 days she would probably be OK. What are you worried about? Kids can handle almost anything we stupid adults throw at them and come out reasonably well adjusted.

If I was you I'd be more worried about the 8 year old boy - if this is an example of how you go on normally you've probably neglected him something ferocious

Just give them all a kiss and go off to your trip with a smile and a wave and do your business and come back and all will be well and happy to see each other again.

Worry about the 8 year old.

Markit

Originally Posted by pollyanna

Crystal, go on this trip and don't worry while you're away. Work, play, and enjoy. With the nanny, your aunt, your step daughter, and even your son there you really do not need to be worried about leaving for 3 days. Put that paranoia away for a few days and relax.

You're very sweet Pollyanna.

It's just hard for me for some reason. Emotions can get in the way of logic when it comes to family and me.

I am going to go check out your blog now lol :)

Originally Posted by Jimbo

I think you will be fine but do not worry about the emotions. Better that way than some cold hearted git who does not care

Hi crystal, I am a mum and can totally understand where you are coming from!!! BUT- your kids will be fine, From my experience(I have left the kids a couple of times) the kids will survive.

go and enjoy your trip!!! hell consider extending it and enjoy some pampering!!!